Ask Better Questions
By Suzanne Bird-Harris • Aug 11th, 2008 • Category: Motivational Monday •
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Do you want a simple way to drastically improve your life?
Ask better questions.
Ask questions that empower you, that stretch your sense of possibility, that require you to look past your assumptions and question the status quo.
Instead of asking, “Why is this happening to me?” ask, “What part did I play in creating this?” Instead of asking, “Whose fault is it?” ask, “What can I do to improve the situation?” Instead of asking, “How could I be so dumb?” ask, “What did I learn from this?”
There are only three things in this life that you, and you alone, control:
- Your thoughts/beliefs
- Your words
- Your actions/responses
Focus your questioning in these areas where you have the power to make a difference. And most of all:
If you are going to ask yourself life-changing questions, be sure to do something with the answers.
- Bo Bennett
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Suzanne Bird-Harris is a web designer, coach, blogger, speaker, mother, grandmother and student of life and living. She helps entrepreneurs use the web to make money doing their thing - in this lifetime! Visit Suzanne and download your copy of her e-books, "WordPress: What's In It For Me?" and "Go to the Balcony to Get a Grip".
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This short words of wisdom is very thought-provoking, very provoking indeed. Thanks.
When we ask why is something happen to ourselves, it’s almost a belief that we are too good for the bad things to happen to us. Rather it should be happening to someone else. Never do you hear why me, when good things are happening.
We have to take the good with the bad; using the bad to change something and turn the whole situation into good.
Great advice.
Excellent advice — surely lessons we need to keep at the forefront of our minds all the time. Thanks for sharing! (The engineer in me loves this — we’re always on the lookout for continuous process improvement — the line of thinking in this post will contribute to continuous personal improvement. Great stuff!)
A refreshing way at looking at the events that happens in our lives. The questions certainly make you put things into perspective.
I love it! I agree. When people run around crying “Why me?” or believing that they just have bad luck, they are victimizing themselves. If you don’t believe you have any control over anything then you will never take control of your own life. We shouldn’t beat ourselves up or put all the blame on ourselves, but we do need to take responsibility for what we have contributed to the problems in our lives. Then and only then can we consciously make a decison to change things.
T. Michelle Theus’s last blog post..The Mirror Has Two Faces
I had to print this and post it were I’ll see it often.. the mirror in the bathroom!!
Thanks for the new way of thinking