Flow by Djuanna Brockington
By Djuanna Brockington • Apr 3rd, 2009 • Category: Musings of a Mid-Life Diva •
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Organizers. Agendas. To Do lists.
My world is ruled by them.
Living off script is much more difficult.
Today I asked a girlfriend what some “me time” would look like for her. Like if she spent a couple of nights in a hotel as a getaway. She’s a writer. Her “me time” included her computer so that she could get some writing done. Her mind drew a blank at having non-scheduled time for herself. It’s does not exist in her world right now.
Not the point I was trying to get her to see, but I understood where she was coming from.
I too have had moments when the thought of not adhering to a set schedule for a couple of days sounded like a fantasy. Something that only happened to the lucky folks. Sort of like winning the free time lottery. I had a bigger chance of getting hit by a bus.
It’s hard to change the flow of things in your life. Things don’t stop because you need some down time. The demands won’t go away long enough for you to regenerate and re-energize. People don’t take their vacation time because they don’t want to return to a pile of work greater than what they left. Moms seem to be especially affected by this. Our lives are filled to the brim with the care and keeping of others. And let’s face it- hubby, kids, work- they probably aren’t going to encourage you to get away and take some time for yourself. What would happen to them? You mean, they would have to figure out how to function on their own for a few hours, a couple of days, or a week? Oh, the horror!
It’s hard changing the flow. It sometimes pisses people off when you put yourself first. And that is OK.
Choose to change your flow every once in a while. Family, friends, and work may not thank you for it, but they will definitely reap the benefits of it.
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Djuanna Brockington is is a Southern Diva who knows about mid-life. Once she hit her 40s, life as she knew it no longer made sense. What she wanted and what she was experiencing, both personally and professionally, were not matching up, so she started seeking change. Be careful what you wish for. After 19 years of service, Djuanna left full-time employment in the public sector for life as a consultant and writer. When she is not chasing the dollars to pay the bills, she is enjoying her family and friends, reading whatever she can get her hands on, and working on that elusive novel. Visit Djuanna on the web at http://www.divafictionbytes.com
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I try to squeeze in my “me time” once every few months. My last one was in March when I went shopping for summer dresses and tops. Then I had dinner with my local book club and talked and relaxed for hours. No kids and no husband. Refreshing!
As I have aged, I have learned to change ‘The Flow’ it helps to have grown children…for instance today, I am pittering around, at one I am going for a mani-pedi-massage and then back home to read….now that it flowing…
Blessings!
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@Jennifer C- over the years, I’ve come to hate shopping. Something about shopping with a girl child has just killed that buzz for me. LOL It’s good you take time for yourself. Brava.
@ Angelia- I like your flow Diva! That sounds like a real treat!
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DJ,
Tell me how bad this is. A recent trip to Manauga included my laptop and a backup laptop. As I think about this, I’m reminded that I label myself as being structured, ordered and efficient…but I’m thinking there’s another word for someone who takes two laptops on a vacation!
Fortunately, I was able to just chill and enjoy the time with my wife; discovering that the absence of email, voice mail and cell phone ain’t necessarily bad.
I’m back to order now cause anything else for me would be chaos. When I grow up, I may try finding my flow.
U
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I have gotten better about “me time” as I have gotten older. The hard part about the me time for me at first – was the guilty feeling coming back and saying to myself – that I should have been working or doing some other chore instead of the me time.
But after a while I found out it still worked – so no more guilt (most of the time)
You must change your flow, no doubt about it. I need a me alone vacation righr about now. Women have to start thinking of themselves sometimes.
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The flow in my life is always crazy. Even when I’m sick, I have a LIST of things to do for everyone on a regular basis. If I’m trying to do something, take a nap, read a chapter, shoot just catch a glimpse of TV I have to be certain that everyone else is on point. HOWEVER, when it’s a game that my husby wants to see he usually takes the kids with him to his brothers and while I’m grateful, I still find time to do something for everyone else!
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