Have Good Manners Gone Out Of Style?? by Rambling Raven
By Raven • Sep 28th, 2009 • Category: Rambling Raven •
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Have Good Manners Gone Out Of Style?? by Rambling Raven
Perhaps it is just me, but it appears that few people display good manners these days. I have witnessed many folk being mean and just down right nasty to one another. It seems to me that a display of proper manners would go far, but few people appear to have any. I usually take public transportation to and from work daily. On public transportation the first few rows of seats are designated for the handicapped. However, on every bus and train I have ever ridden the non-disabled are usually the ones who occupy these seats. I have seen elderly, and handicapped people get on the bus and made to stand. They stand, not because designated seats are taken by other handicapped folk but because able bodied people refuse to get up and give them the seats. I have seen grown ass men sit while little old ladies with canes stand before them. It burns me up when I see females giving up their seats for the old and handicapped while young men remain seated and don’t move a muscle. Did we stop teaching our sons proper manners?
Another display of ill-manners that send me over the edge is when I witness children carrying on like little monsters. Growing up I was not a perfect child and my friends and I certainly did our dirt. However, when adults were around we behaved as if we had some common sense. These days kids will curse and act a fool around adults and dare them to say anything to them. What has happened to our community where mere children don’t care to display decent manners in front of adults?
Here are a few more of my pet-peeves that involve a display of bad manners:
Men not holding doors open for women.
Throwing garbage on the streets or leaving it on buses and trains.
Adults cursing and talking about sexually explicit subjects in front of children.
Not giving a seat to an expecting mother.
Playing loud music with explicit lyrics in a residential area.
Boys hitting girls (some people never teach their male children not to hit on their female counterparts).
Loud talking on a cell-phone in a public place, especially if the conversation involves explicit language.
I don’t know, perhaps I am becoming a relic. However, I am becoming fed up with all the ill-mannered behavior I am witnessing. What are you pet-peeves that involve such behavior? Is it me or are people getting ruder?
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Raven is an educator with a B.A. in Psychology and a M.A. in Education. She has been an avid reader since childhood. Her favorite genres are mystery, suspense, and horror, although she will give any genre a try. She is a life long resident of Chicago. Her love of books opened her mind to people, places and events far beyond her Chicago home. Reading helped to shape her world and her opinion of the events that took place within it. No matter what demands her career requires of her, she has always found time to read and write in a journal. Along with reading and journaling, she loves to watch the sunset, and discuss hot topics with family and friends. She loves baseball, horror movies, mysteries, listening to music from every corner of the world and expressing her view of the latest books with the women of APOOO.
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Raven, I agree with you on every point. Of course, this kind of thing happens everywhere, but it really stood out to me during the years I lived in the Cleveland area. The door thing really burned me up and it wasn’t even about chivalry, just common decency. I’ll hold the door open for anyone who is only a couple paces behind me–be they man, woman, a senior citizen or a child. But the the brothers in C-town would routinely let a door slam behind them (and in your face) or break into a sprint in order to beat you to a spot in line. I was always tempted to say, “Sheesh, were you raised by wolves or what?”
Sadly, adults cursing and talking about sexually explicit subjects in front of little ones, is something I’ve seen everywhere. The South may even have a jump on other sectors when it comes to this. (LOL) Interestingly enough, the folks who engage in this sort of uncouth behavior always seem to want others to hear. No, not a bit of shame in their game–the more vulgar the conversation, the louder they are.
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Your list of pet peeves are mine also. You are not a relic. When it comes to giving up seats on public transportation NY isn’t bad. Men still do it here. When my gf was pregnant and we got on the train several men would get up and we all got seats LOL I feel your frustation
You are not a relic. I don’t understand it either. It’s just insane and so sad. No decency. No consideration. No class. No anything. I hate all the above you listed and I’ll add three more:
1. Walking on the grass.
2. Blowing the horn outside someone’s house instead of getting out of the car and knocking on the door or even waiting to see if they’re looking out for you. GHETTO!
3. Talking on the cell phone at the register or counter when you’re transacting business. What conversation is anyone having that they can’t call back after they finish their transaction. It’s disgusting.
I’m turning into my mother and I’m proud of it.
All you list above and more are my pet peeves. Rude drivers are high on my list. For instance, four-way stop where people do not yield to the next driver but try to come behind the driver in front of them. Rude! People who when you are the first one to get in your car in a parking lot, they come and jump in the card and start up real fast and try to leave first. Rude! People who do not hold doors for the person behind them. Rude! People who are standing in line behind you all up on you breathing on you. Rude! Even worse, people when you are standing at the counter come and stand next to you when the sign clearly says for them to stand behind the rope and give person privacy. Rude! People that ignore the signs that say no cell phones while doing transactions. Rude!
It is hard to imagine that these people grew up without any home training. I cannot abide rude people.
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Dera, you reminded me about the folk who come and stand too close during business transactions. I hate that. I know that they may mean no harm but it makes me think they are up to no good. I also hate to stand behind folk at the ATM while they make ten dang transactions. I always want to yell to them to go to the dang bank if they have that much to do. The ATM is for quick transactions, just get the money and go.