When Your Job Begins To Take Over Your Life by Rambling Raven
By Raven • Aug 31st, 2009 • Category: Rambling Raven •
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When Your Job Begins To Take Over Your Life by Rambling Raven
It never ceases to amaze me just how much a part of our lives our jobs are. When everything seems to go right with your job, it makes things in your personal life a little easier. However, when things are going very wrong at your place of employment the stress seems to invade every other aspect of your life. My job has just had a change of administration. The new administration came in like gangbusters and has been very demanding to say the least. Along with sending e-mails in the middle of the night telling us what is due the next morning, people are being called out for how they dress. I thought I could handle the situation just by doing the very best I possibly can and going with the flow. Yet, the stress of the job has begun to interfere with my personal life. I am so busy doing things to try to stay on track that I am having a difficult time finding time to be with friends and family. I am even finding it difficult to engage in personal hobbies such as reading and writing. In fact, I was going to forgo the blog this week because I am too burned out to even lift a finger on the weekends, not to mention I still have things to turn in and deadlines to meet.
Handing my entire life over to my job is not my definition of living a full life. Yes, I need money, just like everyone else. I also need to have a well rounded life as well. I need to engage in activities with my family and friends. I also need to engage in activities that I enjoy. The activities that help me to release my mind from all the stress this world throws at you. I have to find time to read, reading is my way of escaping the nonsense around me. Writing helps me to keep things in perspective and it keeps my mind active.
My way of fighting the job blues is to not let it take over me. As long as I do what is required to the best to my ability that is all that matters. The rest of the stuff that is thrown at me will just have to take a backseat. I can’t allow someone else’s petty antics burn me out. I have nearly twenty-five years to go before I retire. And that is a heck of a long time, too long to be stressed and frustrated everyday I get up to go to work. I don’t want to end up with stress related health problems or damn near batty by the time it is all over. I also want to continue to enjoy what I do. In order for that to happen I can’t let others steal my light because they have an agenda of their own. I think that I am finally learning to keep the personal from the professional. It isn’t easy but I am determined to be successful at it.
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Raven is an educator with a B.A. in Psychology and a M.A. in Education. She has been an avid reader since childhood. Her favorite genres are mystery, suspense, and horror, although she will give any genre a try. She is a life long resident of Chicago. Her love of books opened her mind to people, places and events far beyond her Chicago home. Reading helped to shape her world and her opinion of the events that took place within it. No matter what demands her career requires of her, she has always found time to read and write in a journal. Along with reading and journaling, she loves to watch the sunset, and discuss hot topics with family and friends. She loves baseball, horror movies, mysteries, listening to music from every corner of the world and expressing her view of the latest books with the women of APOOO.
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Good post Raven…thought you were talking about me for a minute…
My job is the same, except for the gangbusters, and it’s difficult to keep the professional from personal because there isn’t enough time in the day to do all the things that need to be done. I pray that yours turns out better than mine. I’ve had enough and I may be moving on without a plan b…I like living and strokes are in my future if I continue. I can’t even say the last time I was able to read more than a page of something. But I totally feel you. If you can make it work, do it! I’m praying for you.
Hey Raven so sorry to hear that the situation at work hasn’t gotten any better. Keeping you in my prayers and praying for a brighter day soon. BTW, do teachers have to wear uniforms also? What happens if you don’t?
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Thanks for the prayers and well wishes. Darnetta, I will pray for you as well. It is never easy to leave a job without a plan B.
Yasmin, we are not “required” by the union to wear a uniform but the principal can set up “local” rules. Teachers who have not worn their uniforms(me included) on the given day have been given dirty looks and told that we didn’t have school spirit, not team players.
@ Raven so sorry to hear about the uniform fiasco…that’s ridiculous.
Sorry you have to deal with all the work drama. You have to find a way to let it go and give yourself some me time
Being raised by my father gave me one advantage… drama becomes like white snow in my ears.
I’ve always worked in large groups of people and I’ve done one thing and one thing only… I come to work to get a check.
I don’t come for the entertainment value or to make friends or to get the latest update on who’s doing what.
This is my benefit job and I plan on just coming to collect and do whatever I have to do to collect that check which is my job.
I thank gawd, I was taught at an early age that this is just a J.O.B. and not to revolve my life or feelings around the 9 to 5. My job is something that takes my time Mon – Fri
What I’m trying to say is something my mother and TD Jakes told me:
Don’t give anyone the pleasure of taking your joy… do it to them first (My Mother added the last part, LOL)
But the point is gurl, get out of your blues by raising your head, taking a deep breath, be grateful you are working (cause no one in Detroit will be by the end of this month) and keep going. Find your joy at other things in life and just live.
This too shall pass and although it’s about 8 hours of your day that has to pass five days a week, there are other hours in the day that you can find the joy that you need to just smile and be happy.
kisses and prayers for you and all
Raven, I’m sorry to hear this nonsense is still going on. I’m a lot like Darnetta, I’ve left jobs with no plan B because my health and well being meant more to me. I am so tired of employers taking advantage of their employees. I once had to tell an employer I did not come to work for them to reinstate slavery. And I meant every word of it. I felt like I was picking cotton in the fields with the sun beaming down on my head. I hope things get better for you. I am constantly praying for those who have their jobs, and whose jobs have them.