The author of the Essence & Black Expressions best-seller My Invisible Husband is back with her fifth novel – His Invisible Wife. To celebrate her upcoming release, she’s on the” Invisible Love” Virtual tour.

  How to Keep the Spark in Your Relationship?

(As Told by Brianna Mayfield)

By Guest Blogger Shelia M. Goss

 Thanks Shelia for allowing me to take over your blog post. As readers will soon find out, although I’m cautious with my heart, I know what appeals to a man. Here are a few tips that I, Brianna Mayfield, got from Shelia Goss’ article. Of course, I have to add some of my own comments (with her permission of course…wink wink). 

No one could ever say that Brianna isn’t a romantic. I believe in romance. I believe that there’s the perfect man for the perfect woman and when the two meet, all will be well in the world. Although my life is currently a mess, I have not given up hope that I will meet my Nubian prince–and Jake Banks, who I’m currently involved with, is definitely not the one.

 Contrary to what the statistics may say, women and men still need each other. Women can be independent and wanting a man doesn’t make one less independent. A man can be in a monogamous relationship without the fear of losing himself.  Unfortunately, I don’t think Jake would know how to be monogamous if you hit him upside the head with the word. He is always in the paper with a different woman on his arm. Some would call him a player. I call him a garden tool.  Why did I have to get involved with him? Well, that’s another story.

 We have to appreciate the differences and embrace them. One good way to enhance our relationships is communication. Communication doesn’t mean just verbal, but other ways to show our mate that we appreciate them. If you are in a relationship for other reasons like me, then sometimes you might have to fake the funk and communicate anyway. (Sorry Shelia, don’t mean to be so cynical.)

 Some things we just take for granted but when not done can cause a little friction. If you’re not already doing some of these things, try it and see what happens:

• Give your mate your undivided attention. This means that sometimes you need to let calls go to voice mail; turn off the TV; pull yourself away from email and the computer-you get the point.
• Schedule a date night. Whether it’s once a week or once a month, new and old couples need a night just to themselves. If you have kids, find a reliable babysitter. Do what you have to do so you and your mate can keep the flames burning. Keep in tune to what attracted you to your mate in the first place.
• Allow your mate some “me time.” Every now and then we all need to spend time away from our mates-whether it’s to read, a long hot bubble bath, a trip to the spa, hanging out with friends, or just quiet time alone. Believe it or not this can help your relationship.
• Give a card, send an email/text message or make a phone call “just because.” Don’t wait for special holidays or birthdays to show that you care. Do something every week, if not every day to let your mate know you’re thinking of them. And not out of any obligation, but because of your genuine affection towards them.
• Share a part of yourself that you don’t share with anyone else. This helps create a special bond and should bring you closer.
• Make a special CD with both of your favorite songs. Don’t forget to make duplicates so you both can have a copy in your cars (smile).

There are so many other ways to make your relationship stronger, but these are a few simple things that you can do. Remember to take the time to REALLY get to know your mate’s likes and dislikes. Don’t be afraid to cater to their needs. 

Brianna’s final thought: If you’re ready to end a relationship or want the other person to end the relationship, stop doing the above things immediately.

Thanks Shelia for letting me take over your blog post.

 Brianna Mayfield is a fictional character. Read more about her in Shelia Goss’ upcoming book – His Invisible Wife.

 More about His Invisible Wife:

REVENGE…LUST…HOLY MATRIMONY

Texas businessman Jacob “Jake” Banks is about to lose his business and everything else he’s worked for until his uncle dies and leaves him as the executor of his estate–only catch is, he has to marry and marry a specific woman in order to cash in on the inheritance. Big problem, since Jake has vowed to be a bachelor for life.

Brianna Mayfield is at her last rope. Her father lost his business due to Jake’s uncle turning down a loan. She’s convinced this caused her father to fall into a deep depression.  She blames the Banks and vows to pay them back one day. When she sees an ad in the paper for a job at her self-proclaimed enemy’s company, she feels her luck is turning around. She applies and is later approached by Jake with a proposition she can’t turn down.   

 What would you do for a million dollars?

His Invisible Wife can be pre-ordered on Amazon.com. It will be in stores in July. 

Shelia M. Goss is the Essence Magazine Best-Selling author of My Invisible Husband, Roses are thorns, Violets are true, Paige’s Web and Double Platinum. His Invisible Wife is her fifth novel. For more information, visit her website www.sheliagoss.com.

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