Comments on: Why a Mid-Life Crisis Guide? by Djuanna Brockington

By: Rosa

Rosa — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 15:45:24 +0000

I had mine several years ago, took a buyout at work and have NOT looked back. The hubby clone is now grown so I now read when I want to, scrapbook, study photography, cook when I feel it, retired the dress clothes except on very special occasions, wear no heels, jeans & sneakers are the preferred dress code, and am as happy as a bird in whistling time.

By: Evelyn

Evelyn — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 05:25:28 +0000

My own MLC was precipitated by the sudden death of my father when I was 39. He was a man who gave his all for his family, working the same job for 40 years. He had a list of things he wanted to do for himself–when he retired. He taught us those values. He was working on his list, but he only lived 5 years after retirement. The day he died, I decided to stop putting things off–and I haven’t looked back. I haven’t done or seen all the things on my list, but I’m working on it=:)

By: Djuanna

Djuanna — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 12:56:04 +0000

Thanks so much Dera. I'm having fun over here at APOOO. See ya' next week. Djuanna's last blog post..PMS and Politics

By: Dera

Dera — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 04:45:43 +0000

Girl, you done good. That was excellent. You came into your 40s with a bang! Dera's last blog post..I've Been Tagged

By: Djuanna

Djuanna — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 15:46:47 +0000

Trina, you’ve got me LOL! I like that you may have another M-LC at 55! Why not. I believe that the Chinese word for crisis and opportunity is the same word (I hope it’s Chinese. I’ve got lots of facts in my head that don’t mean anything to anyone but me, and sometimes the wires get crossed when I try to dust them off- I digress). This blog is about the fun you can have along the way. By the way, the mid-life crisis is mainly a Western concept. I advocate that we are active in our crisis (something that we are doing) as opposed to passive (something that is done to us).

And thanks for my favorite line today:
“So, I suggest that you not fight with, suppress, or in any way anger your mid-life crisis because you’ll only prolong it and cause attention to yourself”

That gave me the image of my M-LC as a living, breathing thing. Something that I can embrace instead of fear. Cool!

By: Trina

Trina — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 12:41:09 +0000

I had my mid-life crisis at 35 years all, yet the denouement didn’t arrive until this year. You are right Djuanna: my crisis was a culmination of recognizing that I’ve done things a certain way in the past and accepting that I don’t want to do it that way anymore…regardless of money, humanitarian acts, family, and so on. So, I suggest that you not fight with, suppress, or in any way anger your mid-life crisis because you’ll only prolong it and cause attention to yourself. But when the mid-life crisis is over, your mind and subconscious are very peaceful.

Who knows, I may have another mid-life crisis when I turn 55. I’m a mover and a shaker.

By: Angelia

Angelia — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 12:19:35 +0000

Turning forty, certainly changes a sister, now over a decade later, the crisis and past and it’s I love my life, and I am going to live it on my own terms and those who want to come along are welcome, all others can stay out the way, because the train is moving…woo hoo…
Great Post!

Blessings!
angelia

By: Djuanna

Djuanna — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 12:03:08 +0000

Hey Darnetta,
Girl, the thirties are something else all together. That’s usually when you are knee-deep in caretaking for others. Just don’t forget yourself, when you can. Sneak off to the movies by yourself for a couple of hours, take a mental health day when you can, buy yourself an ice cream cone. You will eventually get to the other side. But you can definitely start planning your crisis now. Make it as wild as you want, be unexpected, do you.

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By: Djuanna

Djuanna — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 11:57:14 +0000

Hey Angelia,
Thanks for the comment. I have to say that I’ve been enjoying my “crisis”. It’s the control freak in me. I have made too many excuses in my life about why I can’t do this, that, or the other right now. When you’ve had enough, you just do it. LOL

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By: Darnetta

Darnetta — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 11:41:20 +0000

Welcome Djuanna! As a early dirty-30′s girl, I can say I am anxious about hitting M-LC…lol Right now, I’m so focused on the kids and getting life right that it’s hard to be in crisis FOR myself. Great post!

Darnetta

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