Comments on: How Can I Motivate A Teenage Mother? by Rambling Raven http://www.apooobooks.com/motivate-teenage-mother-rambling-raven/ Celebrating African American Literature. Promoting Our Voices. Showcasing Our Stories. Sun, 12 Feb 2012 16:21:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Bre Dickman http://www.apooobooks.com/motivate-teenage-mother-rambling-raven/comment-page-1/#comment-15656 Bre Dickman Mon, 03 May 2010 23:29:06 +0000 http://www.apooobooks.com/?p=3936#comment-15656 I am 28 years old now. I had children at 15 and 19. I am a full time nursing student and my children are both honor roll students. They are very kind,humble and respectful. I was a teen mother once, but my children learned well from me and my family. I would talk to your student with honesty and directness. If you want respect then you need to give it. This is what I have learned. I use to work with children from the ages of 5-17. I know what your going through. Just don't beat around the bush or sugar coat anything. Tell that young mother how it is. I do believe the road will be rough at first due to pride, and the fact that she may think she knows it all. Hang in there, but most importantly never give up on her, no matter how bad the relationship turns out. I will be fine eventually. I am 28 years old now. I had children at 15 and 19. I am a full time nursing student and my children are both honor roll students. They are very kind,humble and respectful. I was a teen mother once, but my children learned well from me and my family. I would talk to your student with honesty and directness. If you want respect then you need to give it. This is what I have learned. I use to work with children from the ages of 5-17. I know what your going through. Just don’t beat around the bush or sugar coat anything. Tell that young mother how it is. I do believe the road will be rough at first due to pride, and the fact that she may think she knows it all. Hang in there, but most importantly never give up on her, no matter how bad the relationship turns out. I will be fine eventually.

]]> By: Nandi Crawford http://www.apooobooks.com/motivate-teenage-mother-rambling-raven/comment-page-1/#comment-14723 Nandi Crawford Thu, 11 Mar 2010 19:27:19 +0000 http://www.apooobooks.com/?p=3936#comment-14723 There was a book I read some years ago dealing with teenage mothers; Imani All Mine by Connie Ann Porter, Dorrie Williams Wheeler's The unplanned Pregnancy Book for Teens and College Students; You did a great thing by giving her a journal, now just be there for her and keep her in your prayers. There was a book I read some years ago dealing with teenage mothers; Imani All Mine by Connie Ann Porter, Dorrie Williams Wheeler’s The unplanned Pregnancy Book for Teens and College Students; You did a great thing by giving her a journal, now just be there for her and keep her in your prayers.

]]> By: Dera Williams http://www.apooobooks.com/motivate-teenage-mother-rambling-raven/comment-page-1/#comment-14597 Dera Williams Thu, 04 Mar 2010 07:40:33 +0000 http://www.apooobooks.com/?p=3936#comment-14597 Raven, I can really tell this girl has touched something in you that wants to reach out. Like Uranie said, keep talking and being there for you and see what Aileen has to offer. Maybe this girl's life can be turned around for the positive. Raven, I can really tell this girl has touched something in you that wants to reach out. Like Uranie said, keep talking and being there for you and see what Aileen has to offer. Maybe this girl’s life can be turned around for the positive.

]]> By: Aileen Philpott http://www.apooobooks.com/motivate-teenage-mother-rambling-raven/comment-page-1/#comment-14591 Aileen Philpott Wed, 03 Mar 2010 21:15:58 +0000 http://www.apooobooks.com/?p=3936#comment-14591 Raven, My name is Aileen Philpott, I live in Cleveland Ohio. I have a non-profit org. for teenage pregnant girls. I'm also in the process of opening a center in Dallas Tx. I have some information to share with you, I need to know what city your in. This can be such a personal matter so, if you would like I'll give you my phone number in both cities. I'm working on a web-site so I can help others. It's a very kind and nobel of you. God Bless you Aileen Philpott allbme44118@yahoo.com Raven, My name is Aileen Philpott, I live in Cleveland Ohio. I have a non-profit org. for teenage pregnant girls. I’m also in the process of opening a center in Dallas Tx. I have some information to share with you, I need to know what city your in. This can be such a personal matter so, if you would like I’ll give you my phone number in both cities. I’m working on a web-site so I can help others. It’s a very kind and nobel of you.

God Bless you

Aileen Philpott
allbme44118@yahoo.com

]]> By: Uranie http://www.apooobooks.com/motivate-teenage-mother-rambling-raven/comment-page-1/#comment-14590 Uranie Wed, 03 Mar 2010 18:43:17 +0000 http://www.apooobooks.com/?p=3936#comment-14590 You being a positive presence in her life is helping. Keep talking to her, keep motivating her. I'm sure her family life is difficult. Letting her know there are other options out there for her will be a help You being a positive presence in her life is helping. Keep talking to her, keep motivating her. I’m sure her family life is difficult. Letting her know there are other options out there for her will be a help

]]> By: Teresa Beasley http://www.apooobooks.com/motivate-teenage-mother-rambling-raven/comment-page-1/#comment-14581 Teresa Beasley Wed, 03 Mar 2010 01:43:50 +0000 http://www.apooobooks.com/?p=3936#comment-14581 Raven you are in a tough situation because even though you do not want to over step boundaries, your concerning heart wants to help this young lady as much as possible. I understand what she is going through because I was her and felt the same way she does now. I let my child be my motivation. My son's smile, his cries, his laughter, and that he depended on me to take care of and keep him safe motivated me everyday. I too journaled to help me get through bouts of depression and shame but I didn't let it keep me down. Remind her that her child is depending on her and this is not the example she wants to set. She needs to be motivated in order to prepare her child for what is to come. Always continue to encourage her to pursue her education and goals. Let her know she is beginning milestones for her child and her child will follow in her footsteps but should be proud of the footstep he or she is following. It also important for her to establish a support system (as I did) and this could be a family member other than her parents, a pastor, a counselor, and you of course. If the young lady is around other teen mothers going through the same things this will also help motivate. It help me just having others to talk to that understood what I was going through and it help all of us stay motivated. We were each others support system. Raven you are in a tough situation because even though you do not want to over step boundaries, your concerning heart wants to help this young lady as much as possible. I understand what she is going through because I was her and felt the same way she does now. I let my child be my motivation. My son’s smile, his cries, his laughter, and that he depended on me to take care of and keep him safe motivated me everyday. I too journaled to help me get through bouts of depression and shame but I didn’t let it keep me down.

Remind her that her child is depending on her and this is not the example she wants to set. She needs to be motivated in order to prepare her child for what is to come. Always continue to encourage her to pursue her education and goals. Let her know she is beginning milestones for her child and her child will follow in her footsteps but should be proud of the footstep he or she is following.

It also important for her to establish a support system (as I did) and this could be a family member other than her parents, a pastor, a counselor, and you of course. If the young lady is around other teen mothers going through the same things this will also help motivate. It help me just having others to talk to that understood what I was going through and it help all of us stay motivated. We were each others support system.

]]> By: Roland S. Jefferson http://www.apooobooks.com/motivate-teenage-mother-rambling-raven/comment-page-1/#comment-14580 Roland S. Jefferson Wed, 03 Mar 2010 01:29:57 +0000 http://www.apooobooks.com/?p=3936#comment-14580 What comes across in this 13 y/o child/girl/woman is her tremendous anger. To deliver at 13 means she was sexually active at 11 or 12, or sooner. You mention the mother, but make no mention of the father. What was the girl's parenting like....her supervision, expectations, controls, discipline? What needs of this child were not being met in the home that sent her looking for love & affection through sex? Recommendation: she needs some intense therapeutic intervention from a child/adolescent psychiatrist who can help her deal with her anger. Therapy will also help her grow up & mature. Being a mother at 13 isn't necessarily the end of the world. But if she continues to seek affection through sex and gets pregnant again beore getting her education, it may well be. What comes across in this 13 y/o child/girl/woman is her tremendous anger. To deliver at 13 means she was sexually active at 11 or 12, or sooner. You mention the mother, but make no mention of the father. What was the girl’s parenting like….her supervision, expectations, controls, discipline? What needs of this child were not being met in the home that sent her looking for love & affection through sex? Recommendation: she needs some intense therapeutic intervention from a child/adolescent psychiatrist who can help her deal with her anger. Therapy will also help her grow up & mature. Being a mother at 13 isn’t necessarily the end of the world. But if she continues to seek affection through sex and gets pregnant again beore getting her education, it may well be.

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