Self-Worth Is the Sexiest Lingerie
By Suzanne Bird-Harris • Jul 14th, 2008 • Category: Motivational Monday •
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It’s Between the Sheets month here at APOOO, and of course, that brings to mind how we feel about ourselves as women, and how that affects our lives between the sheets.
Finding myself single again in my mid-forties, I’m aware of how much my attitude about men, dating, relationships, marriage, sex – all of it – has changed over the years. There are some things I thought would be done with by this point in my life, like…being naked for the first time with a man. I mean – is there a stronger challenge for a woman’s self-esteem than that? At first blush (pun intended! lol), I’d rather take a stick in the eye than have that experience again. I mean – let’s face it – this ol’ bod ain’t what it used to be. Nevermind the stretch marks and the cellulite, it doesn’t bend and flex the same ways it used to. And let’s not mention the “rearrangements” gravity has made. Ugh!
The most pleasant surprise, though, has been the realization that self-worth is the sexiest lingerie a woman can wear. Despite gravity’s “rearrangements”, the woman I am today knows who she is, knows what she wants and no longer feels the need to apologize for either. When I think about it, that’s exactly what makes a man “sexy” in my eyes, so the same in reverse must be what is taking the trepidation out of it for me these days. There’s a confidence about me today that wasn’t there when I was in my twenties, and how could it have been? Yes, I have gray hair and my bones pop and creak, but I have lived and not only survived, but thrived in the face of all that life has thrown at me.
I’m a phenomenal woman. Aren’t you? What could possibly be more sexy than that?
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YOU are on a roll today. And how fitting this post is after our conversation last week…yes sis you got it going on and you’re open, honest and confident about who you are. Self-esteem looks good on you and wear the heck out of that little red lingerie.
xoxo
I’m still a work-in-progress. Gravity took all I had already and rearranged them in ways I don’t like nor understand, but I won’t question human-nature. I have confidence and I think that is sexy as hell.
Please don’t get cockiness confused with self-confidence, because if you’re a man and you are cocky it is the quickest turn off for me. But I’m married so it shouldn’t matter, but it does to me, and my husband when he wants to be silly will pluck my nerves trying to be cocky.
Plus I don’t like those lacy overpriced mess. Skin is in; and with self-confidence I am wearing pure lace.
Hey Jennifer and yes skin is in but I also like that a little clothing goes along way to tease and entice.
I have always been comfortable about and with myself, however the last year has been trying and it has touched every aspect of my life. Stress has caused health issues that I have faught long and hard to overcome. So everyday has been a struggle for me to fall back in love with the woman I see in the mirror. Eveyday I have to tell myself that I am worth the 45 minute walk and the hour long swim! Everyday I have to remind myself that I can not solve my problems with pancakes, because it’s killing me. And, everyday I thank God for women like you who allow snapshots of their lives through blog post and let me know that I am not alone.
Julia thanks so much for your honesty and sis you’re not alone…but guess what…we’re all in this together and we both know that anything worth having requires a little effort…so about that 45 minute walk and the hour long swim…hmmm that sounds a little unrealistic…what about just starting with the 20 minute walk and working up…and rather than swimming laps…try a water aerobic class to break up the monotony…just some suggestions.
LOL about the one armed handstands…gurl don’t hurt yourself out there…xoxo.
Yasmin – yes, our conversation inspired this post, for sure.
Jennifer – I’m with you on the cockiness thing – I’m like – puh-leeeezzz!! It’s a major turn off and makes me want to say, “Oh go away and grow up already!”
Julia – you are SO NOT alone!! Yasmin is right – we are all in this together. Where I can help someone else by sharing my weaknesses as well as my strengths, I’m honored to do so. We all have tremendous worth no matter how many flaws we also have – the trick is recognizing our worth and living from it. That’s what being authentic means – being real. None of us is perfect, but that’s ok, because this life is about progress, not perfection. And thank God, because authentic I can finally do. Perfection? Forget about it.
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20 minutes sounds real god, Yas, real good! Oh and I play in the water more than I do laps. Watcha know about one armed handstands