Skin Deep by Djuanna Brockington
By Djuanna Brockington • Oct 31st, 2008 • Category: Free Flow Friday •
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They say that beauty is skin deep. Can we say the same about confidence?
Due to last year’s writer’s strike, I began watching a ton of reality tv. That was pretty much the only new “programming” on for a while. I discovered the Real Housewives (Orange County, New York, and now Atlanta) franchise. Mindless entertainment at it’s best. Most of the time, I’m shaking my head at the antics of these women, in a “they must be mugging for the cameras” kind of way. But the RH of Atlanta has one wife that really has me scratching my head. Ok, more than one, but I’ll only talk about the one today. I’m still trying to figure out the rest.
Sheree’ is a 38 year old, soon-to-be divorcee’ from a high profile athlete. I have no idea which athlete, even if you told me. Anyway, she often refers to herself as confident. And that got me to thinking. And by now, ya’ll know that’s a dangerous thing.
People who are truly confident, seldom describe themselves as such. I’m just saying. That’s usually a word that other people use to describe them.
All this does is make the counselor in me want to sit down with Sheree and ask her about that. Not that it would matter. I would be paying more attention to what she does than to what she says. You know- actions speaking louder than words and all.
Which brings me back to my original premise. (You knew I’d get there sooner or later.) Can confidence be skin deep? I say yes. If someone is really confident, they aren’t sitting around talking about how confident they are. They are out there BEING confident. In other words, they are doing more “doing” than “talking about doing”. Got that?
When you are assured of your abilities, status, etc, you have no need to discuss it. It surrounds you like an aura, and everyone around you can see it and/or feel it. You give off a vibe.
It’s just my observation that women in transition often talk about confidence- a sort of “fake it ’til you make it” mindset. Once they make it (when the confidence has truly been absorbed into the system), talk becomes real cheap.
I’m wondering if Sheree’ will make it before the end of the season?
Ya’ll know I’m dying to hear your thoughts. Holla!
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Djuanna Brockington is is a Southern Diva who knows about mid-life. Once she hit her 40s, life as she knew it no longer made sense. What she wanted and what she was experiencing, both personally and professionally, were not matching up, so she started seeking change. Be careful what you wish for. After 19 years of service, Djuanna left full-time employment in the public sector for life as a consultant and writer. When she is not chasing the dollars to pay the bills, she is enjoying her family and friends, reading whatever she can get her hands on, and working on that elusive novel. Visit Djuanna on the web at http://www.divafictionbytes.com
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I can’t stand Sheree. I think she’s fake, and I feel like she’s putting on a front for the camera. A few weeks ago this heffer said she is trying to get a 7 figure deal from her divorce. I looked at my other half and said “is she serious?” I am not feeling her right now, or Kim. I mean if Kim was a real friend/woman she wouldn’t be playing the switcheroo card all the time and she could be friends with Nee Nee and Sheree. I mean let’s be honest here Nee Nee was the only person that took a chance with the psychic the other week…Sheree did not. And the way that first episode happend when Sheree just casually mistakenly forgot to put Nee Nee name on the list…Smh. Doesn’t make any sense what so ever. I can’t wait for next week’s episode and to see how things go down after Kim sends Nee Nee the text. My favorite characters are Nee Nee and Lisa.
The only on the show I really like is Lisa, she is the only real one to me. I can’t stand Nee Nee. She’s so loud and ghetto. She has absolutely no class at all. Kim is very phony. She can’t chose who she really wants to be friends with. I think she has no mind of her own and can be easily persaued. Sheree is just something else all together. Does she want that money for her kids or to keep her in those name brand clothes?
This show is mindless entertainment. I go over to Rebecca’s and we crack up. I say this world is not real, but I guess it is real to them. I think you have Sheree pegged right. I find her shallow and lacking. She needs somebody to look down upon and that happens to be NeNe. Now NeNe is a piece of work, mind you but for some reason Sheree looks down her nose at her. These women are silly; they remind me of high school or even Jr. High school.
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Hey Ladies,
I’m with ya’ll- I like Lisa. Because she is a woman of action. And I’m going to admit it, there is something about Nee Nee. I mean, she is a stereotype, and then some, but she has a heart. And I usually am LOL when she talks about putting Sheree in her place- boop! Cracks me up just thinking about it.
I like Nee-Nee, Yes she is loud, but I realized that part of her personality is because she is from NY. (I know that my NJ attitude does not mix well with my Southern friends at times. They really think I am crazy, so I can feel her) I think that she may have grown up a little less refined, but I still like her. Lisa, I like her too. The other one, whose name I can not remember now is the one whose charity event did not go well…(Deshawn maybe that is her name)…now my husband happened to watch it when Kim was on the phone with Big Poppa, he has never watched the show before he just made a general comment…”why does that man not want anyone to know who he is. He does not want to show her off.” Sheree is just wrong on all accounts. She is no type of friend. She and I would never be friends.
I think it should be called “The Ghetto Housewives of Atlanta”. I don’t really have a “favorite” on the show but if I had to pick it would be NeNe, One because she is who she is, yes she’s loud and ghetto but it’s not an act-it’s her whether you love her or hate her she is the most “real” of all. Kim- what is her purpose? And I am telling you she is lying about her age or she is the oldest looking 30 something I have seen in a long time and she is what we ladies called “two-faced” she has been hanging out with Ne Ne all this time and claims she is her best friend and now all of a sudden Ne Ne is to “drama filled” for her, so now she is all up in Sheree’s behind. And this “Big Poppa” person, I really would like to see him, but I think he remains a mystery because he is embarrased. Kim called Sheree “beautiful” so many times last week I started to think that she wanted to get with her. LOL. And Sheree is just fake! She thinks she is all that and she is not and IMO she is not attractive-she kinda looks like a man. She is trying to start her own clothing line (along with everybody else) let see how far that goes. I like Lisa because she is about business and does not get “messy” like the others, and Deshawn too.
I’m loving this show. It’s the kind of drama I’m seeing people enjoy in books. The funniest one to me is the white chic who wants to sing country western, but never sings, what’s her name? I’m bad with the names. NeNe is she the one who is trying to find out about her father? That’s a trip and I couldn’t help but laugh about the charity event being a flop. I mean really, you’re new and town and you think people are going to what??? Come out their pockets for you. I don’t think so.
I too thought Deshawn was a bit niaive. Why in the world would you not make that an “invitation only” event? Nee Nee’s friend was right. You don’t leave invites in STORES! They ate her food, drank her alcohol, and kept their hands in their pockets. And the whole time I kept feeling like the event was about her, not the girls. She was talking about how influential she was. Whatever- you don’t even know your neighbors. Craziness. And I think Kim’s Big Poppa might be married and that is why he doesn’t want to be on camera- Wifey will kick his behind ON CAMERA. LOL
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