I spent my twenties working at a company where I was the youngest employee by 15 years and the first EVER female in a technical position (computer programmer, then later, Data Processing Manager.) I was constantly being told I was still “a pup” and “wet behind the ears” and all manner of other condescending crap. [...]
There is a school of thought which says in order for us to achieve, we must first believe we are capable. Studies show our brains don’t know the difference between a memory of an event and a visualization of an event that has not happened. Interesting implications, wouldn’t you say? As avid readers, I’d say [...]
Reading is…comfort. More than anything else, when I want to get away from the world and it’s stresses, nothing calls my name louder than a good book and my couch. Curled under a blanket on a cold winter day, or sprawled out in front of a fan on a hot summer day – matters not [...]
When our cup is not ‘runneth over’, sometimes it’s not because we aren’t trying to fill it. Sometimes, it’s the little cracks and leaks our cup has developed over time that are sabotaging our best efforts at leading fulfilled lives. One of the most insidious ‘leaks’ I found in my own cup was caused by [...]
When you ask better questions, of yourself and others, you get better answers. What you create with better answers is a more reliable compass by which to navigate your life. Sometimes the simplest questions confound us the most. Who am I? What brings me joy? What do I want for my life? What am I [...]
Do you want a simple way to drastically improve your life? Ask better questions. Ask questions that empower you, that stretch your sense of possibility, that require you to look past your assumptions and question the status quo. Instead of asking, “Why is this happening to me?” ask, “What part did I play in creating [...]
The one thing upon which we can rely in this life is change. It’s our only constant. But just because things change, and we change – that doesn’t mean we grow. Growth is a choice, a decision. Every situation, every thing that happens, every success and disappointment is an opportunity for growth if we’re willing [...]
The most eye-opening thing I’ve heard in weeks is a close friend of mine say out loud, “Oh no, I could never be with him – he’s way out of my league,” and really mean it. I looked at her, opened my mouth…and shut my mouth, opened my mouth again…and shut my mouth again and [...]
A friend of mine was recently lamenting that she’s been taking a lot of heat lately for being single. Everyone (except me) in her world is pressuring her to find a man and get married already! She is, 99% of the time, quite happy being alone, doesn’t feel like she’s missing out on anything and [...]
It’s Between the Sheets month here at APOOO, and of course, that brings to mind how we feel about ourselves as women, and how that affects our lives between the sheets. Finding myself single again in my mid-forties, I’m aware of how much my attitude about men, dating, relationships, marriage, sex – all of it [...]
