If Tiger Woods Was a Woman by Rambling Raven
By Raven • Feb 22nd, 2010 • Category: Rambling Raven •
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If Tiger Woods Was a Woman by Rambling Raven
Okay, who watched the Tiger Woods news conference Friday? Who was drawn in by his eloquent summation of what occurred on that now infamous night when he accidentally drove his car into a tree? Who amongst us was moved by the often tearful breaks in his speech? Who was moved by it all and believe that it is now a non-story and Tiger should come out of hiding and reclaim his spot as the number one athlete of all time? And who plain and simply believe that Tiger was completely and utterly full of shit?
I raise my hand for the last question. I do not for one minute believe that Tiger is sorry for anything other than the fact that he got caught. Not only do I believe that he is sorry for getting caught but for the lost in money, respect and admiration that getting caught led to. Let’s be honest, if Tiger’s little indiscretions had not become a source of public knowledge (by us and Elin), he would have more than likely continued on with his adulterous behavior.
After Tiger’s little speech he was the talk of water coolers around company offices everywhere. He certainly was at my place of employment. And everyone had an opinion, of course. Many women said that if they were married to him they would give him another chance. There were some women who were totally against reconciliation with him, while the men tried to figure out how he allowed himself to get caught.
Here is the thing that gets me about the entire Woods fiasco. If Tiger was the top female athlete who was busted for cheating on her husband with upwards of 20 men, no one nowhere would even consider giving this person a second chance. She would be forever branded a whore and not a sex addict. All endorsements would have been pulled and no one would be questioning whether her husband should stay or not. She would be considered an unfit mother and people would have called for her children to be taken away from her. If her husband had not divorced her by the time the second and third affair was revealed he would have been considered the biggest wimp on the planet. And there would be no talk of a comeback; no one would want her back.
The female Tiger could cry and say she was sorry in 20 news conferences and still have the words, bitch, whore, ho, slut, nymphomaniac, and a slew of other adjectives thrown at her. Most of all she would not be looked at as a sympathetic figure, in any way shape or form. Media outlets would have interviewed tons of experts as to what her mental issues were. They would have theorized everything from childhood molestation to having a horrible relationship with her father.
So when I saw Tiger’s news conference I didn’t feel sympathetic towards him. I saw it as yet another incident of a privileged man who got in trouble with taking a few too many liberties with those privileges. The people who I did sympathize with were the family who has to endure the humiliations that this selfish person heaped upon them. I can’t imagine the conversations he will have to have with his children once they are old enough to understand the ugliness of this episode in their lives. I guess Mr. Woods should find some solace in the fact that if he isn’t a woman. If he was a woman he would have to do a hell of a lot more than drop a few tears in a news conference to repent for his sins.
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Raven is an educator with a B.A. in Psychology and a M.A. in Education. She has been an avid reader since childhood. Her favorite genres are mystery, suspense, and horror, although she will give any genre a try. She is a life long resident of Chicago. Her love of books opened her mind to people, places and events far beyond her Chicago home. Reading helped to shape her world and her opinion of the events that took place within it. No matter what demands her career requires of her, she has always found time to read and write in a journal. Along with reading and journaling, she loves to watch the sunset, and discuss hot topics with family and friends. She loves baseball, horror movies, mysteries, listening to music from every corner of the world and expressing her view of the latest books with the women of APOOO.
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Well, I think I am a someone somewhere, and I would give the woman a second chance. Why? Because I don’t really care about what she does. I care about the ATHLETE. I’m wouldn’t be upholding her to some standards that don’t exist in the real world, just like I’m not holding Tiger up to any standards, except for being a kick-ass golfer. I understand, because of the celebrity and all, of why Tiger felt the need to do a conference, as contrite and well-planned as it was, but I was pissed he had to do so. It ain’t NONE of our business what he does in his real life. And people keep throwing up the celebrity thing. I read a quote the other day talking about celebrities spend all their lives trying to be well-known and then spend the rest of their lives trying to hide from it. Because Woods is a talented athlete, I’m supposed to care about his marriage and sex life? Am I supposed to go to my child, any child, and say, “I’m sorry I held Tiger up as a role model for you?” I probably should kick my own behind with the latter, that any person would hold someone up — that they didn’t know and whom didn’t know them from Adam – as the role model for their child.
Sorry for rambling, but this is a touchy, irritating thing for me. Haven’t watched or read much about this case or most cases dealing with celebrities because I abhor how much we make them a part of our lives and daily talk.
Shon, I understand your point of view believe me. The thing I was trying to point out is the double standard in society when it comes public opinions. If Tiger was a woman the world would demand even more.
As for the celebrity status of it all. Celebrities pay a heck of a lot of money and invest a lot of time in getting their image out there and making sure that image finds its audience. They reap a heck of a lot of benefits from it especially financial. So I don’t feel sorry for a lot of them when that image proves to be in direct contradition to how they are selling themselves. We live in a celebrity obsessed society. And a lot of folk would give an arm and a leg for fame. I think too many don’t understand that fame costs.
And any intelligent adult should know that a celebrity isn’t a “god” and to express that to their children, I think a lot of that gets lost in translation especially when you are up against slick multimillion dollar campagins.
With it all comes some sort of responsibilty from the celebrity who seeks to gain the publics favor as well as dollars. If you don’t want your business out in the open then make sure that you are making sure that it doesn’t get that way.
You can’t want to be in the public for the good things and not expect the media to trail you when things go wrong.
Well said. I made the statement that if every celebrity, male or female, felt a need to go on tv and hold a press conference after the world felt a need to dig into their personal affairs there would be nothing left on TV.
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Very well stated as always. You are so right about the double standard. I personally didn’t watch the apology or care about Tiger. Like any cheater he is upset because he got caught
Feel ya, Uranie!! All I am saying is that we live in a wordl where people want fame and fortune but not the headaches that come with it. I still say that if he was a female–There would be no coming back!
I agree about the double standard. If Tiger was a woman I don’t doubt some kind of criminal charges would be pending, for whatever the authorities could come up with. Maybe tree abuse for hitting one with the SUV. Anything, because women must be punished for sleeping around in. Men endure some embarrassment, then the world moves on. Just remember the outcry over Janet Jackson’s wardrobe malfunction. Two seconds of something that most of America missed. Just think if she had done the things Tiger did.Lawd have mercy,
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