Comments on: Its Tough Being Single, So Leave Me Alone by Rambling Raven

By: Uranie

Uranie — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 17:00:43 +0000

DItto to what the ladies said. Don’t ever settle. I’ve done the married thing and its not all its cracked up to be LOL I was lucky to meet a good guy after my marriage who is blue collar (he works as a security guard) but he doesn’t depend on me for anything. He is a hard -working brother that works multiple jobs to take care of himself and help me if needed. My ex made thre times the money my boyfriend does but he wasn’t near the man that Paul is. You never know who you will meet – I wasn’t looking for a relationship after my marriage, it just happened. I enjoyed my single days a great deal and if things don’t work out for me and Paul I will enjoy them again

By: Dera

Dera — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 07:59:03 +0000

Great blog. It takes a secure woman to enjoy her own company and not settle.
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By: Sylvia

Sylvia — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 03:38:08 +0000

I love being single. I love being with myself and I don’t mind at all hogging the bedcovers, leaving a mess and picking it up when I feel like it, not caring for any adult except me when I feel like it.

I’ve been down that married road, the seriously dating trail and the horrible why am i with you boat ride and I have to say, the best times are with myself.

Maybe I haven’t met that perfect Mr. Right, although according to my imagination he can’t possibly exist, but until I do, i really don’t mind just being Sylvia to Sylvia.

Gurl, ain’t nuthin’ wrong enjoying your singlehood. It’s refreshing and wonderful. Enjoy it to the fullest!

Trust me!
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By: Raven

Raven — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 03:33:57 +0000

Haha, Rhonda I think you are right. See this friend I am referring to has an interesting history with men. She has always dated what I call “fixer-uppers”. Guys who are blue collar and in many ways needy. Her husband for example is less educated than she is, and has always worked in jobs such as janitorial and security(usually at a warehouse or something). Yeah, old girl does believe that she is happier with a husband and children, which is fine for her but not for everyone else. In fact I have come to the conclusion that she is one of those women who is afraid of being alone. She has always been in a relationship. When she was single she was always on the hunt for a man. I use to tell her to get to know herself first before trying to date the next guy. Her husband is nice enough but he will never be more than what he is. And he relies on her for a lot of things; emotional and financial. She seems to be okay with that.

By: APOOO

APOOO — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 02:17:23 +0000

I think you should suggest pyschotherapy to your friend. She needs to find out why she actually believes a woman can’t be happy without a man. Something wrong with that.

I agree Rhonda.

By: Rhonda McKnight

Rhonda McKnight — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 22:55:33 +0000

Raven,

I don’t know what to say. The “D” word came to mind after I read Bachelor #1’s resume. If these guys were what she considered good catches, what’s a bad catch? An Ike Turner prodigy or maybe a pimp? Girl, please. Nothing worse than the wrong man, not even loneliness can top that.

I think you should suggest pyschotherapy to your friend. She needs to find out why she actually believes a woman can’t be happy without a man. Something wrong with that.

By: APOOO

APOOO — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 19:21:56 +0000

Hey Raven you have the right attitude! Being married and having kids are more than a notion…and while there are many high moments…there are also moments when many women want to run away from home. Happiness doesn’t come from having a husband or kids…but from within…and as long as you are happy with yourself you will be happy no matter what your status might be. And Mr. Right will find you…you won’t have to go looking for him.

By: Raven

Raven — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 17:57:45 +0000

Thanks ladies for the supportive words. Yeah, if I get another invite from this friend I am going to have to tell her up front that she needs to back off and let nature take its course. I may find someone wonderful and I may actually not find anyone at all. Either way it doesn’t mean that I am not going to try to live life to its fullest. For some of us we still can’t imagine life being full without a man and children. The reality is that I may never find Mr. Right but that doesn’t mean that I have to become some old maid. Nope, life is what you make of it and you have to live for you not for anyone else.

By: PatriciaW

PatriciaW — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 15:41:12 +0000

She really did mean well…

I try not to matchmake, although I find just the opposite to be true. Since my husband and I have been married going on 18 years, friends and business associates–never married and divorcees–ask whether I can help them find Mr./Ms. Right. Wuh? Like because I am married and plan to stay that way, I’m qualified to find the right person for someone else?

I advise friends to be happy. To be active, physically and spiritually. To get involved with the world around them, to learn and do new things, but then be open to new people/relationships and leave the rest up to God. ‘Cuz of course you’re not meeting anyone sitting at home, unless it’s the maintenance man or mailman, but don’t go out into the world with the intent of finding one. Go out with the intent of being someone.
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By: lisa

lisa — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 14:36:45 +0000

Girl…
I am a 42 yr-old single woman with no children. Being that I am also a freelance writer one member of my family…my older sister who became born again nearly 20 years ago, has been married to her husband of nearly 40 years with two adult sons…is now considering me as a lost cause who will suffer if I don’t hurry up and either get a real job or a husband. Says God’s plans are wasted on me…I ask her how does she know this. I care for our father by being in my parents’ home. My free time allows me to do things for him while I juggle my own life. She said to me one time God forbid if dad dies I will be clueless…she shut up when I said God could wipe me , her and our two siblings out while dad lives to be 104. So I have learned to ignore her and definitely need to do that more since the good ol’ blood pressure is trying to be funny with me.
Just tell them nope and keep it moviing.