Comments on: My Weekly Venting/Rambling by Rambling Raven

By: RosaJ

RosaJ — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 03:20:41 +0000

You hit the nail on the head.

By: Lori

Lori — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 22:00:50 +0000

Clap, clap, clap! You said it all and said it well (LOL). Yes, self-hatred is alive and well in our community and unfortunately, isn't going anywhere, anytime soon (smile). As far as the young school girls are concerned, it takes my hubby, who used to ride the Rapid to and from work when we lived in the Cleveland area, to talk about them. There was one child in particular on his route who used to irk the h-e-double hockey sticks out of him. One minute she'd be talking about what dress she was wearing to church and the next minute, she was cussing up a storm and talking about who she was gonna cut (LOL). Lori´s last blog post..

By: Dera Williams

Dera Williams — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 18:22:35 +0000

Wow, great topics. It is ironic that I reread the article "Marriage is for White People", depicting the low marriage rates for blacks. Yes, women are desperate and lose all self-respect in the hopes of getting a good man. One of the younger women asked the other day, why do some many of the NFL and NBA players marry white women? It is so easy to say they are full of self-hate but are the the sisters on campus disrespecting themselves and others. I know it isn't that easy, but we need to look at how we carry ourselves, all ages. We need to have a major dialogue about self-esteem and self-worth values. Dera Williams´s last blog post..Literature for Women's History Month

By: Raven

Raven — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 16:06:59 +0000

Thanks for the replies, ladies. Yes, it is a sad state we live in when our girls are “out there” more so than the boys. We have so much to fight for in our communit. First, we have to take back the spirirt and the soul of our children.

By: Lashonda

Lashonda — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 15:45:51 +0000

Great food for thought. My oldest daughter would not wear braids around her fathers family for years because they hated them. She would wear them with me, but take them out after being with them. She now wears her hair how she wants and does not worry about what they think. These young girls today are looking at videos and thinking that they have to be that hot girl. With people proud of names such as SuperHead(yes I read her book;and it gave no insight as to why she was a ho. I did not buy to take care of her son). Young girls seem to think that they have to be oout there to catch a boy. I remember Ericka being upset in highschool because she was not "stacked" so the boys saw her as a friend. I told her it was not that, I bet the girls made a name for themselves. She found that mommy did know what she was talking about. I remember whispering with my friends about my relationship with my HS boyfriend, we sure did not want adults, known or unknown to us, that we were having S-E-X. I am scared for my 2 youngest...what kind of peers will they have. I do not question them too much because they know I don't play. Lashonda´s last blog post..2009 1st Quarter Reading Challenge - Week 7 Update and my project

By: 'Cilla

'Cilla — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 13:25:09 +0000

That was a lot to digest and think about … Great as always

By: Linda Chavis

Linda Chavis — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 12:47:49 +0000

Whew..is all I can say..oh and I feel you

By: Uranie

Uranie — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 12:37:00 +0000

Great as always Raven. My gf’s were talking about the teenage girls and said the same things you did. They were saying its the girls that are being “fresh” and aggressive. Its sad about the women lowering their standards over a man. I left my husband becuase I wasn’t getting the respect I deserve. Now I am with a “grown azz man” LOL He is everything my husband wasn’t and treats me the way I deserve to be treated. So you never know what can happen

By: APOOO

APOOO — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 02:15:55 +0000

Raven, I believe the key is having positive role models, beginning with mom, grandma, aunts, and other female elders, in our lives. We so need the village to help raise us and remind us what we can become if we apply ourselves.

By: Raven

Raven — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 02:04:42 +0000

Yasmin, there was a time when black women wouldn’t “cut-up” in public. Now it seems that so many of our young girls do it as a rite of passage. As for the women and how they are lowering their expectations for a man, I don’t get it. I don’t care how old, or thick I get I won’t take anything that is thrown my way. I gotta thank my mama for instilling a lot of self-esteem and some good old fashion common sense. And teaching my that there is nothing wrong with being by yourself for a while.